Leahs Cafe

Are you a person of your word? Do people trust you? Being trustworthy is a character trait essential for any healthy relationship. But there are many things that we say and do that will break the bonds of trust.

Keeping promises is an important part of a relationship. It builds trust and shows we are committed in what we say and do? Are your yes’s a yes and your no’s a no. What does that mean?

If we end our statements with, “I promise”, that means we are to do what we say and say what we do. If someone says to you, “I will take you out to dinner on Friday, I promise”. But when Friday rolls around, he couldn’t go because he was working late. What happened? He has broken that promise and not being sincere with his words!

Why do we make promises that we know we may not be able to keep? Do we truly believe that we can back up our promises with action? Do we say “I promise” because  we want to please the people or we want people to believe in us so bad.? Do we say “I promise” all the time, but more often than not, busy schedules and mismatch priorities get confused in the way, and promises get broken?

If you’re not really sure that that you can keep a promise then don’t make the promise! If you are the type of person who often makes promises, do what you say you’re going to do and be a person others can trust and believe in.

Lying is like a broken promise but much worse. Unlike a promise, which you hope you can keep, a lie is an untruth that deceives people into believing truth, which in fact is not true, but a lie! When you lie to someone, the person feels deceived and unloved by you. Why would you lie ? Can you not be trusted?

Why do we lie when we know it is dishonest? Are we hiding something we are ashamed of? Do we really have a personal relationship with God and our conscience doesn’t bother us when we lie and deceive others. Maybe we don’t want others to hate us, be mad at us, or leave us. Are we dare to lie but are not bold enough to tell others the truth about who we really are?

Did you know that nine times out of ten, others especially your spouse who knows you so well can tell a lie from a truth? This breeds more mistrust and pretty soon there is nothing left of the relationship because one of the major components of a happy relationship is trust and faith.

You don’t have to be a liar. Be an honest person of character and then you won’t have to lie. When you can avoid lying, fibbing and making half-truths you become known as trustworthy, which marriage and all other relationships thrive on.

Lack of commitment in what a person does will eventually  lead him to be dishonest in its interactions. Your commitment is your promise that you will be the honest and upright person you say you are. If a couple aren’t committed to each other, what do you think is going to happen? I think all sorts of deceitful deeds will be acted upon; making  the other person feels doubt, mistrust, and suspicion.

Unfortunately this kind of unhealthy relationship won’t last long. In today’s society, unfaithfulness and deceitful practices are rampant because many people aren’t devoted nor committed to what they do in life!